If you’ve been following the news this week, you may have been overwhelmed by certain Supreme Court hearings, proceedings, and all various forms of tweets, updates, and articles, but amongst all of the serious and somber news of the U.S. government, there was also an undercurrent of celebrity news still plodding on quite steadily.
And among that celebrity news? The latest celebrity pregnancy announcements, like Jessica Simpson, who announced that she is pregnant with her third baby, a little girl, sometime “soon,” according to her caption (no official word yet on a due date). Simpson’s announcement came as both a surprise and a bit of relief for her fans, who had noticed some concerning social media posts from the fashion label founder and singer, especially considering her public struggles with her first pregnancy and subsequent very quick second pregnancy.
Regardless of how she is feeling about pregnancy the third time around, Simpson is the latest celebrity in what appears to be a new trend of spacing out kids in larger age gaps. As a 32-year-old mom myself, I feel like I am watching a generation of celebrity moms who started having children relatively young, like I did, and who are now, after having a gap in having babies, are adding “bonus babies” to their families.
The trend toward wider age gaps in siblings, at least among celebrity families, does appear to be pretty popular right now. Simpson’s youngest child, for instance, is 5, so she will most likely be entering school if she hasn’t already by the time the baby is born. And other celebrities have demonstrated the bigger age gap as well, such as Jessica Alba, who welcomed her son, 8 months old, when her next youngest child, daughter Haven, was 7 years old. And then we have Hilary Duff, mom to son Luca, who is 6, and currently pregnant with a baby girl. I can’t say for sure why there is a trend towards having more babies right now, but if I were a celebrity expert, which I’m not, I would almost say having a baby is a bit of a celebrity status move right now.
Why am I so obsessed with these celebrities adding more babies to their families?
I am so intrigued by the idea of spacing out children or having a baby after having a relatively larger age gap in children, because well, my own youngest child is 4 years old and I often think about adding just one more baby to our family. I had all of my other children exactly two years apart each, so the thought of having a baby when the next closest sibling would be five or more, and the oldest would be an entire decade older seems completely foreign to me. I just can’t picture it; I had babies and toddlers and that time in my life flew by like a blur and to think of going back seems at once exhilarating and exhausting. There’s something to be said of having a bunch of babies back-to-back, because in a way, you’re in that “mode” of life, but once you’re past it, well, it can be hard to go back.
That being said, however, I can think of plenty of benefits of adding another child after a large sibling age gap, such as the fact that there might be a second set of hands around to hold or entertain a baby should I have to do outlandish things such as use the restroom, answer a phone call, or eat a meal while it’s hot, or that a built-in babysitter wouldn’t be such a bad deal after all. But then I think of all of the potential drawbacks: would big siblings feel resentful towards the time and attention a new baby would demand? Would they feel forever slighted, the baby of the family destined to be loved as the adorable new plaything forever, while they are left forgotten in the older children dust? Would I physically be able to handle another pregnancy and all of the accompanying newborn and baby exhaustion while also dealing with the drama of the preteen stage and the constant running of children to sports?
I just don’t know. I may love the celebrity trend of having a “bonus” baby and a wider sibling gap, but I sure as heck don’t have the celebrity support system. But then again, I know plenty of real-life parents who have made it work. So, tell me, what do you think? Is a wider sibling gap a good thing in families or does it present unnecessary challenges?
The Celebrity Trend Is Spacing Their Kids Apart and It’s Intriguing
Chaunie Brusie is a writer, mom of four, and founder of The Stay Strong Mom, a community + gift box service for moms after loss.